Monday, April 27, 2009

Toxic People Around You?

A couple of things I wanted to highlight.

No. 1 is this great quote I read in an email attachment someone sent me - great in meaning and great in untackiness….

"Dream of what you most enjoy
Go where you want to go
Be whom you want to be
You have but one life
So achieve what you want to achieve."

You know living life and being happy is not difficult in its core. We just do it. If you want to be rich, then when you work for it (be it by working in an organisation or on your back as some people enjoy doing - which will be discussed in more detail later in the post) then don't complain about it because that is what you decided makes you happy.

(Gosh, I can feel my mood changing as I write this - it started out happy and motivated and enlightened and became a little bit….angry…)

I get upset when people whine all their lives (ok, start of 'much more detail later part of post'). I know some people in my life who are happy to fcuk for money and presents and gifts with no thought to anyone but themselves and still manage to find time to whine. I can’t understand how some people can love themselves so much to the exclusion of others. I have always thought it unfair to cheat on your partner, be it with someone else or with yourself (not that I'm counting masturbation - but when you love yourself too much to the point you'd hurt your partner to advance yourself then yeah, that can be called cheating - right?) ((Another aside: yup, definitely angry mood), But ever since getting married and feeling the emotions that I feel now when I look at JH's face (I love just looking at his face - I don't think he knows I stare at him when he eats….)…..Anyway, I feel so doggone ANGRY when people are selfishly fcuking for money and cheating on their partner! ARRGGGHGHHHH!!!!!How can you live a happy life when you can't even forget yourself for one moment and fully love and care for another??? It is one of the greatest joys in life - says the woman who isn't sure she wants children….- but seriously when you want to do all the little things you sometimes wouldn't even do for yourself, for someone else, you know that you're happy. Do you understand what I'm saying? You know, like I want to eat that fruit in the refrigerator downstairs but I'm too lazy to get it - so I don't. As compared to I want him to eat it or I'm sure he wants it - therefore I go down and get it……

Some people think that when you get a man to spend money on you or when you humiliate him and he takes it, it makes you great - well, it doesn't. It tells me you're shallow and immature and your parents have brought you up to care more about yourself than others! Trust me, no man wants to be taken for a ride and no man will take it forever - that's why God invented the concept of trust and respect. Aiya, I don't know why I'm in this mood. I just read about whines all day long - people who want more than they're getting just because they can. Like I said in my Beijing post - I saw a garbage woman pushing her father/husband along in a wheelchair collecting recyclable aluminum tins from garbage cans and she was happily smiling and chatting away. It's not money and material things that make you happy!

It's having your husband drive up to the house and break into a wide smile as he sees you at the door. It's preparing the chair for your husband when you're settling down to watch a movie cos he is more comfortable that way. It's buying something expensive for your sister just because you know she'd love it. It's telling your mum you love her to get her out of a funk, even when you're upset yourself and reminding your dad that he's done so much to shape you into the person you are….

People wonder why I wonder at having children - perhaps I'm just a pessimist - I know there are good people out there but I am deathly afraid I won't know how to raise our child(ren) into good people - good not necessarily as in rich and famous but good in the heart and mind and soul. These are things I don't know how to teach! So many people can go wrong - I have friends who can, by all accounts and standards, be happy but they continue to whine - I don't have enough money, I don't have enough stuff, I don't have enough skinniness….sigh…..perhaps they just need more luck and good karma - then the right inspiration will come into their lives and they will have an 'Eureka' moment - life is about having the right happy people around you. I think I have to explain this - in order for the people around you to be happy, you will have to influence them right, and vice versa… it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation where you make them happy and when they're happy, they make you happy and the cycle goes on…..the thing is just to identify the right people for your little group and to be willing to start the cycle - but hey, that's just me.

Maybe others are happy with an extra bottle of perfume! (Yikes, maybe I shouldn't have said that - the best perfume in the world is happy pheromones)!!! Someone stop me PLEASE!!!!!!

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